Today is January 1, 2018. This really is the beginning of a new year. School years begin in August and I always had students set goals for each new year. When students returned in January and the calendar year had changed, it was another opportunity to set new goals. I suppose that even though I no longer teach, my year will always begin in August, end in May with two hots months at the end just to irritate me. I don’t really like summer.
People often choose this time of the year to make resolutions. I’m sure a lot of people feel like when a year is over it’s just over. They can just wake up on January 1st and begin a new year without giving the previous year a single thought. I am not one of those people. I dwell on everything.
I deserve a gold medal in dwelling. There couldn’t possibly be anyone else who dwells on things as much as me. If I think a stranger at McDonalds looks in my direction & laughs, I’m sure they’re making fun of me. If anyone says anything to me, I mean anything, that I could possibly misunderstand & take as an insult, I will. I will see their expression or hear their words again & again in my head. It’s negative talk and it’s my constant self-nagging that keeps me from stepping out of the so-called “box.”
Whether you think you can, or think you can’t…you’re right. Henry Ford
I’ve been told numerous times, and I’m sure it’s true, that if I want good things to happen, I need only positive self-talk.
1) It helps boost your confidence.
With positive self-talk, you can put your doubts away. If you think confidence doesn’t equal success, think again. Those who are successful at what they do truly believe in themselves and their abilities. Confidence is so important to success that many psychologists believe that it is a prerequisite to personal and professional success.
2) It introduces optimistic thoughts — that save you from depression.
Depressed people often feel useless, worthless and hopeless. Not only does it take a toll on the mind, it affects the body as well. Depressed people may have a variety of physical symptoms. Sleeplessness, eating problems and apathy are symptoms commonly found in those suffering with depression. Positive self-talk can help you turn things around. Positive self-talk, such as “I can do this” and “I am successful and smart” can stop negative thoughts that may lead to depression.
3) It eliminates stress.
Stress can get the best of you, it affects every bit of who you are. If you want to escape from the burdens of stress, then positive self-talk is something that can help you out. According to the American Heart Association, positive self-talk can keep stress under control. Positive self-talk makes you feel calmer and less anxious.
4) It shields your heart.
Stress is one of the many factors that can lead to cardiovascular diseases. Since positive self-talk can reduce stress, it gradually lowers your risk of suffering from heart problems as well.
5) It can help you improve your performance in anything you do.
Positive self-talk can give you the nudge you need to set big goals and work toward getting things done. Positive self-talk is an essential part of sports psychology. Positive self-talk can help athletes reduce jitters and performance anxieties, helping them get in the zone.
Whatever big thing you are working toward achieving, positive self-talk may be the key needed to push you in the right direction.
Assignment: Find at least 3 different words, sentences, or quotes that can be your positive self-talk when you need it. I’ve included some here for you to consider.
- I am confident and worthy
- I choose to be thankful for all I have
- I believe in the person I’m becoming
- I believe in myself and my ability to achieve
- A positive mind will give you a positive life
- I attract only good things into my life
Write these on sticky notes and place around where you spend your day. I put them on the bathroom mirror, on my laptop and tablet screens, and even stuck to the microwave door. They are nice little encouraging notes to myself. I’m an adult and don’t have anyone around to give me pep talks or to write me personal happy notes. These sticky notes are reminders to be kind to myself and others. When I’m feeling confident and proud of what I’m putting out there in the world, I’m more kind to others too.